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Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or S.L.A.A., is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented Fellowship of men and women who help each other to stay sober. We offer help to anyone who has a sex addiction or love addiction or both and wants to do something about it. We S.L.A.A.’s have a special understanding of each other and the disease, and we have learned how to recover through The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A.

Types of Sex and Love Addiction.

We in S.L.A.A. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. It may take several forms—including, but not limited to a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one or many people, or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue, or fantasy. An obsessive compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional, or both, exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. Sex addiction and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse. However, if we follow a simple program which has proven successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover.  Only you can determine if you are a sex and love addict.  Answering The 40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis will help you make this decision.   

How can I get started?

We suggest attending S.L.A.A. meetings as often as you can. Many of us chose to attend several meetings a week, or even daily. We discovered that we were not alone in our addiction. We found support in the Fellowship, and began to address our patterns of destructive behavior. Other meetings of 12 Step-oriented fellowships can also be helpful, or you may consider attending online and telephone meetings.

We suggest that you obtain some S.L.A.A. literature and learn more about S.L.A.A. and about sex and love addiction by visiting the "Learn More" area via the menu tabs at the top of this page.

We maintain confidentiality, and refrain from disclosing names or identifying group members outside our meetings. We understand anonymity to be critical to the foundation of our recovery.

What does it cost?

S.L.A.A. groups are self-supporting, declining outside contributions. There are no dues or fees required to attend an S.L.A.A. meeting. Voluntary contributions from members are used for expenses such as rent.  No one is ever obligated to make any donation at an S.L.A.A. meeting.

Suggested Reading

The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A. (pdf)
The Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. (pdf)
The S.L.A.A. Preamble (pdf)
Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction (pdf)
The 40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis (pdf)
Signs of Recovery (pdf)
Recommended Guidelines for Dealing with the Media (pdf)

(The seven files above may be used on other S.L.A.A. websites.  It is suggested that the links presented here be copied instead of saving the files themselves for download.)